Without you I can’t live any longer
If it were like that anyone who has been abandoned or has lost, somehow, a beloved person, should automatically die. Actually, sometimes this happens: the natural death of one of the two partners in a couple is followed, very soon, by the one of the other when it may even be contemporaneous, anyway they are very rare cases.
Mostly the sentence:”without you I don’t want to live any longer” might concern the numerous cases of suicide which are the consequence of the loss of a love, considered vital.
Therefore if we consider what and how many reasons there may be to commit suicide, we can admit that the truest sentence is”I don’t want to live any longer“
There are so many” Reasons” to commit suicide, they are often so banal as to look rather pretexts or opportunities the aspiring suicide makes use of to say decidedly he doesn’t want to live any longer.
The internal cause is depression, the latent effect: “I don’t want to live any longer”; the external cause one of any banal reasons to commit suicide, the manifest effect is suicide. Among the most frequent reasons of the external cause there is the so called love or better, the lack of love of a person considered essential.
Suicides “for love” may be suicides”for loss” and suicides”for abandonment“. The first ones, for loss, are those where a person we had a stable affair with, mostly a very long one (husband, wife, parents, children) passes away. The second ones, for abandonment, those where a person feels he has been abandoned by a partner with whom the affair was, mostly, short.
Suicides for refusal are, on the contrary, those where the suicide was rejected by the person he had loved.The suicide for loss is one of the few suicides with a “real” cause.
Being deprived of the person we shared everything is a cause of great stress, but soon we think not all widows and widowers commit suicide: not at all !
Also parents, after their son’s death, commit suicide, but also a son, after one parent’s death, more frequently, if it is mother. In one case, an old man committed suicide because of his grandson’s death, but this is very rare. In another case anorexia and the loss of a parent induced a twenty-seven-year-old woman from Genoa to suicide.
Rarely a loss doesn’t concern a relative, but one or more collegues, as the case of a worker of Fincantieri in Genoa who committed suicide because he felt responsable for the tragic end of six colleegues that died on board of the gas ship Sham in Porto Venere.
The loss of a relative may be unreal, but symbolic, therefore the suicide among adolescents owing to their parents’ separation is frequent enough.
Suicide as a”consequence” of a separation and concerns other categories, the most atrocious of them is the one of extended suicide: one of the two divorced parents, besides committing suicide, kills his own children as well.
Among all these” causes” of suicide, loss may be found in the animal world. On Valentine’s day a cow elephant committed suicide three weeks after her partner’s death. Pancow, this is the name of the animal, had shared her cage with Maco, a bull elephant in the zoo of Lyons. When Maco died, she started showing depression as to fall into the ditch keeping her apart from visitors [1].
[1] In this case analogy isn’t only with suicide for loss, but also with”the cage”: couples who have lived in the cage of their flat, far from any other dear person( children, friends, community) and without any contact with social life. It’s obvious in both cases, animal and human, the loss of the partner represents the loss of the only reason why to live.
Translated from Il Virus Intelligente by Enrica Narducci
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10°) Suicides (Le Mal de Vivre Tenth part)
11°) Suicides (Le Mal de Vivre Eleventh part)
12°) Suicides (Le Mal de vivre Twelfth part)
13°) Suicides (Le Mal de Vivre Thirteenth pary)
14°) Suicides (Le Mal de Vivre Fourteenth Part)
15°) Suicides (Le Mal de Vivre XV part)
16°) Suicides (Le Mal de Vivre Sixteenth part)
17°) Suicides (Le Mal de Vivre XVII part)
18°) Suicides (Le Mal de Vivre XVIII part)
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20°) Suicides (Le Mal de Vivre XX part)
21°) Suicides (Le Malde Vivre Twenty-first part)
See also:
1°) Suicides (Le Mal de Vivre First Part)
2°) Suicides (Le Mal de Vivre Second Part)
3°) Suicides (Le Mal de Vivre Third Part)
4°) Suicides (Le Mal de Vivre Fourth Part)
5°) Suicides (Le Mal de vivre Fifth Part)
6°) Suicides (Le Mal de vivre Sixth Part)
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